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Cerebral Palsy
Center for the Bay Area, Inc. 4500 Lincoln Avenue Oakland, California 94602 Phone: (510) 531-3323 Fax: (510) 531-2990 E-mail: cpcoak@cpcoak.org |
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Cerebral Palsy
Center for the Bay Area, Inc. 4500 Lincoln Avenue Oakland, California 94602 Phone: (510) 531-3323 Fax: (510) 531-2990 E-mail: cpcoak@cpcoak.org |
Advice Column
What would you do if someone stood you up on a date?
My first reaction would be to feel bad that they did not show up. I would ask them why they stood me up? If they had a good excuse I would give them another chance. If they didn't have a good excuse they probably don't have time for me and then I don't time for them. People need to treat each other with respect and dignity.
I use a communication device and I am slow at communicating. Often times, for example at family get together's, I am excluded from conversation because it takes me so long to make my comments. Do you have any advice for me in dealing with this problem?
Everybody should be able to communicate in anyway they are able to. It's not very nice to shut out someone just because they can't talk very well or because they communicate slowly. Being understood is important no matter who you are or how you communicate. Our advice is don't give up trying to communicate with them. Ask them to give you the time you need. If you keep trying, they will (hopefully) see that you really want to be an active member of the family. Keep trying to communicate. You can't change people overnight.
I am interested in a guy who is in a relationship with someone but I don't know how serious they are. If he is in a serious relationship, I don't want to become involved with him. I know his girlfriend but we are not close. How should I approach the situation?
One option is to just walk away from it and don't get in middle of the situation then you won't get messed up. Another option is to ask both people how serious they are in their relationship.
I am almost thirty years old and want to live independently. I am currently living with my parents who have been also acting as my attendants. They don't want me to move out. They are worried about me being on my own. How can I convince them that they should let me move out?
The biggest thing you can do is talk about it. Don't force it. Give your parents time to get used to the idea. Do things to show them that "yes you can do it". It would be helpful to have a meeting to discuss your needs. You can include your case manager and a friend to support you.
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